Beyond Tips
Why parenting advice doesn’t always work and what really helps
Parenting advice is everywhere. But what happens when it just... doesn’t work?
It’s not that you're doing something wrong. The truth is, unconscious emotional patterns, shaped by your past, can take over in the moment. They override the strategies you’ve read or been told. And no matter how hard you try to follow the advice, it just doesn’t stick.
You’re not broken. You’re just stuck in old emotional cycles that were never yours to carry.
In my work, we don’t layer on more “tips.”
We go underneath, to resolve what’s really in the way.
Let me show you what I mean...
“Just stay calm.”
If your nervous system is triggered, calm might not be available. Fight, flight or freeze takes over. We work with those emotional responses using NLP, IEMT and hypnotherapy and calmness begins to happen naturally.
“Set firm boundaries and be consistent.”
If you fear rejection or abandonment, setting boundaries can feel too risky. We process those fears, so they no longer get in the way.
“Use positive reinforcement.”
If you grew up feeling unseen or unheard, giving praise might feel awkward or disconnected. I help you reconnect with your own self-worth, so it becomes easier to share that with your child.
“Don’t take it personally.”
If your child’s behaviour triggers old wounds, like not feeling good enough or loved, it’s hard not to take it personally. We dissolve those emotional buttons so you don’t get pulled in. You stay steady.
“Use logical consequences instead of punishment.”
If guilt or shame are running the show, it’s easy to swing from being too soft to too harsh. We work through those feelings so you can respond calmly and quite often, you’ll find your child simply starts doing better without needing consequences at all.
“Repair after conflict.”
If no one ever repaired with you as a child, apologising or reconnecting might feel too vulnerable. We clear the fear so repair feels natural and your child learns emotional safety through you.
“Trust your instincts.”
If your feelings were dismissed when you were young, you might’ve learned to question yourself. As we work through the layers, your inner knowing starts to come back. You’ll feel more grounded in what’s right for you and your child.
This is where the real change happens
We don’t try to force new parenting strategies on top of old pain.
We gently untangle what’s been stuck and the parenting becomes easier.
More connection. Less stress. No tips needed.
